got a violent 18 yr old son i need advice. he’s doing phenomenally well at college and starting a foundation at uni this sept. i have mentored him given him direction and supported him as a single self employed mother. however lately he randomly kicks off big time. Screams at me. insults me. thumps me, throws things violently against the wall. threw a fork hardcore out of a door way tday of which i was literally right round the corner of. thank God i didn’t go through the door way and get it in my face. he will kick off for minor reasons. He blames me for his abusive behavior, a classic sign of an Abuser. he’s exemplary to other people outside the house but indoors he’s a total git to me on random occasions. He finds fault with all i do and all i dont do. in his teenage opinion he’s got more potential than me, has better friends, more friends, and better contacts. I cannot live with his scary random behavior wondering when will he kick off next and what things will he trash and throw around the house and will i get hurt during his rage. He said he cant afford accommodation until one year’s time and when he starts a BA at uni and gets a grant. He said the foundation is 5 days a week and cant work and he will have no money for rent. Does anyone know if he is eligible for any assistance re rent and living expenses asa student? I cant take his manic abusive behavior anymore. he refuses to go live with his father. i cant see a way out of this because i cannot discuss the issue rationally with my son, he seems to go into bizarre Rage Mode and cant rationalize. he says you did so-and-so…. ‘you made me do it’. If i say to him how can u be so nasty to your own mother he just screams more. It’s a complete headfck situation. I know that today will not be the last random rage he will orchestrate. we live in a tiny flat and its a nitemare. I’m worried that this may escalate and i will get hurt.

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